The heart Vs the brain..

Heart and brain... Which one must we follow? which one is more superior? Does the braintell the heart what to feel? Which one is it?

Why is it that something so wrong can feel so right.. And something right can feel so wrong? Why cant we stand strong to something we know thats not right as it involves other human beings?
How would we feel if it was to happen to us? is it different? If your head says its wrong and still follow your heart does that make you a bad person? Would that be the way your seen in others eyes?

Lots of people have been let down in relationships.. Do they hold that in and change who they are and be so cold in future connections? why is it that one finds it hard to do? Even after being let down by love and you decide you wont let anyone get close to you, why is it that we cant stand strong to that? does the other give a positive vibe? or how can u be sure both are on the same page? Well to answer that my self I guess its just to discuss about it openly with the other.. But what if you are blowing it out of proportion? Most people say go with the flow and enjoy it.. But it is easy to do for those who just do things casually.. What happens to those who are still so old fashioned and does believe that there is that someone out there.. May be you still can have that life you've always wanted.. but then those things are just way over the top. !st you've gotta deal with standing your ground..

If someone is in love with someone, but enjoys spending time with someone else, is that love real? or what is it? why do u get confused with whats reality? why are we so blinded? so confused.... :(

Don't wanna be me anymore...

I feel so much within me but i cant let it out... I went in search of answers and reasoning that I forgot to stop and see what is in front of me... when you are in that web you dont tend to see it. everything gets to you... you take things for granted and you dont communicate what you have to.. YOu basically have a closed mind... and before you know it you grow apart and then end up with more miscommunications... and then you end up being scared to take that chance...

Most people live in a comfort zone for protection of being hurt and pain... But is that a life worth living? Why cant people do what it takes, say what they have to say, take that chance at happiness... Why are we humans so afraid? Having a brain is sometimes a pain.. cos we end up thinking too much.. if only we had the heart and followed it how great would the world be?

People say that nowadays girls are very forward, no morals, and are very fast etc. Girls also have learnt to get what they want from men and be emotionless... What made them that? Sometimes I wish I can be like that... Cos saying what you feel and putting your heart out there hurts you and screws you up in the end cos the others dont understand you... Why bother loving cos all it gives is pain... Why not just use people and have a good time... How does one do that? Man I've gotta try... I dont think my heart can take anymore of this.. I am not blaming anyone but my self... I didnt know what to do.. Hope there was a lesson on life... and everything was so streamlined...

Today was a day I felt so alone.. Well of course putting all my profiles on invisible or offline contributed to it.. But i realised when shit hits the fan there is no one for you but your self... I never want to be in this situation at all.. I felt like dying so many times... I wish I never wake up... So until that happens I am going to change.... I will be a total BITCH. I wont let anyone mess with my heart again... and I'm going to be invisible from now on... Sorry to everyone I end up hurting.. or have hurt in the past... I guess I was never good at telling my feelings I only did the way I knew and I was always said to be too open.. Lets try another way but dont expect me to be a good girl... I dont want that me anymore... and if you dont like it? Well you can just fuck off!

always on your side.

My yesterdays are all boxed up and nearly put away But every now and then you come to mind.. cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called you found a place to hide... When you knew that I was always on your side..

Well everything was easy then, so sweet and innocent... my demons and my angels reappeared.. leaving only traces of the man you thought i'd be too affraid to hear the words i've always feared.. leaving you with only questions all these years..

But is there someplace far away, someplace where all is clear, Easy to start over with the ones you hold so dear? Or are you left to wonder, all alone, eternally This isn't how its really meant to be.. No it isn't how its really meant to be..

Well they say that love is in the air, But never is it clear, how to pull it close and make it stay... Butterflies are free to fly, and so they fly away and I'm left to carry on and wonder why... Even through it all I'm always on your side...

But is there someplace far away, someplace where all is clear, Easy to start over with the ones you hold so dear? Or are you left to wonder, all alone, eternally This isn't how its really meant to be.. No it isn't how its really meant to be..

Well they say that love is in the air, But never is it clear, how to pull it close and make it stay... Butterflies are free to fly, why do they fly away and leaving me to carry on and wonder why...

Was it you that kept me wondering through this life?
When you know that I was always on your side....

Not meant to be written!

Can u believe this???!! I just blogged and it just got erased!!!!! All my thoughts and feelings were typed down.. with search for answers.. but I guess certain things shouldnt have gone in there.. So I guess its not meant to be written.. Today at least.. May try again tomorrow if i get in the mood of typing..

God bless everyone and may your hearts be happy with love..

Why!!!???

Why is it that one cant move forward or cant overcome something? Is it cos that person in mentally unstable? Is it cos they need psychiatric help? Even though they get phychiatric help how can the fears be erased?

Why is it that people in this world love putting people down and stick their nose into other peoples lives as if they know what truely is happening? Why is it that when the people involved hear about it, get affected. Is it cos their feelings are not strong? Is it cos they dont trust the other or for that matter have no faith..

How can someone have faith in someone that has let them down.... If one has let them down and then forgave that person and try to figure out if they can make it work and move past it and the decision is in ones hands, why does that person always fall back on these tales and end up at square one? Why? How can this stop? Hypnosis? Will that help? Why cant the person involved in this understand how to reassure that doubt? why is our human brain so complex? Why is our heart so vulnorable? How come people can be so cold and hurt people without even blinking an eye? How does one become that? These are questions I am seeking answers to and it certainly is driving me mad... HELP!

How to make the correct choice.

Emotions... Such a weired thing I must say... It can lift you high as the sky or take you so low that you wish you were six feet under... How do we control it? I am trying to search for the answer... hoping that when I write I will find it...

Sometimes you think everything is great and your probably getting your life back on track... but then all of a sudden your brain drifts and pulls out some old memories which makes you look back and wonder, did I do the right thing? Or makes you miss that life... and when you go through old pictures, so many questions come up in your head that you want answers then and there and there is no one to give those answers to you.. Nothing in Black and white.. everything is grey... I wish there was a sure way of us knowing its right or wrong.. Cos sometimes your heart wants to do the right thing but your brain keeps saying dont and doesnt let you take that chance...

Why do we have that fear of taking chances? Why do we build such big walls in front of us so that we cant climb it? and why is it so hard to make up your mind and stick to your decision? I know there are some strong people out there that can make a decision and stick to it and not look back. But unfortunately some can not. For them they take that decision cos it is what makes them feel happy and they know at that time it is the right thing to do. But they still look for someones approval to say "Yes that was the correct thing" But In life you are never sure of things. and even if someone approves some may still disagree.... So when someone is faced with such a situation, what do they do? How can they move past? How can they start rebuilding their lives? Why do most people get stuck in that situation? Anyone know the answers.. Please do write your thoughts.... I am still looking for those answers....

History Repeating It self.

Have you ever wondered that wow you've been in this situation before? Someone comes into your life and then you loose touch and then after 4 years they pop up again and you feel the same connection you felt long yrs ago? How is that? Is it because you understand each other and that’s why things haven’t changed? It’s strange though...

I believe we meet people in our lives for a reason. May be to help us get through a bad time or may be for us to help them. Like I've said before there is a reason for life and everyone in this world is here for a reason. Never regret anything that made you smile and thank the times you cried cos if you cried its cos it meant something to you and for that you should be thankful. This may not make sense.. It doesn’t make sense to me either.. But these are just my thoughts.....

Be nice to everyone you know. You never know when you will need them or how greater impact you make on their lives.. Have a good day!

Right & Wrong

On my way to work today I was just thinking to my self... "May be I should write a book!" Would it be useful? I think it would.. You see most books we read are all made up.. We love to live in a fairy tale land.. People say "It’s not right, do this that way or this way" Who started it? Who has the right to say this is right or this is wrong... Example: One should not live together with their lover until they are married? Some say its against religion.. Some says society will talk... Why should we live our lives for others? Will society help you when your down or will they wait for an opportunity to gossip? I cant say the same about religion though cos yes I do believe in God but God made Man and woman for each other as it says in the bible but it doesn’t say about marriage.

Certain things in the bible are added on as we all know it, this is the work of man who are influenced by wrong doing. Who gets us to do wrong? Some say the dark one, some say the devil etc.. Any religion says to do good. To live with love... don’t hate.. Forgive... but people who talk so much about God and go to church 4 times a week come back home and gossip about this one and the other. Has hatred in their hearts and cant seam to forgive... But they are the very ones who say do this, this way, divorce is against religion... You promised in church etc... Were there Church's those days? Did one have to go to church to make a promise or even pray for that matter? Is God only there in Church?

One would promise to love and be there for each other... But what happens when the love dies? I know you shouldn’t love or give expecting anything in return, but we all love someone or something cos it makes us feel good... so in reality we are getting something in return.

Why do we hear about people divorcing in Sri Lanka so often? Couples who have dated for 7-8 years stay married only for about a year and end up hating each other! Why is that? When you date you always want to be with each other, you don’t really have to worry about bills or responsibility. It’s just a trip... you plan and have fun... Once you get married then you begin to play house and yes the 1st year of marriage will be wonderful. But what happens when reality kicks in and you realize this is going to be your routine for the rest of your life? The romance has died down... What makes you want to stay in that marriage? It’s a lot of understanding combined with real love... Take siblings... you may be tied up in your own work and life that you hardly talk to each other but you know when you have a crisis they are always there for you with no limitations. Married life becomes that.. Even though Romance dies.. Your love and understanding should grow if its real love... if you think you’re in love just because of the romance, then you are in for a bit of a rocky road...

Couples don’t know each other properly until they actually live with each other. How one uses the toilet or little things like closing the toothpaste cap are things you will have to get used to once you start living with a person... and sometimes couples cant handle that. It’s a lot of give and take. Some feel as if it’s a lot of giving than taking and that's when they feel unhappy and irritated and wonder why do I need this? If that’s the thought, you have to work hard at trying to understand why you feel that way and finally you realize that you ended up getting married because someone forced you or you were just so taken up by the whole wedding thing that you forgot why you were getting married... or didn’t know why...

If you live together and know how each other behaves and figure out if it irritates you, you have your answer there.. but if you live together and can overseas ones messiness or extreme neatness and say " oh I love him or her even more for that" or understand and except that of the other person, then I suppose you know if you can live with this person for the rest of your life.
Cos after all the whole song and dance of the wedding is over that’s what it boils down to. Can you see yourself waking up with this person every single day and know that it won’t bug you? If you love someone you would accept them for who they are... Not hope or try to change them. After all you fell in love with them for them not who you’re going to change them into!

So I think people shouldn’t give a damn about what others say or think as long as you are doing the right thing. Love unconditionally, be sincere and except people for who they are... Despise wrong doing... don’t judge people. They know the reason they do things not you or me. Marriage is just a piece of paper.. The commitment you make to one another is what is real!

Reason for Life

Lots of unfortunate things have happened in my life and more than once I have thought to my self "Why me?" We always want things to be smooth and fall into place... Like those fairytales we read when we were young. Unfortunately Life is no fairy tale.

Why are we here? Why were we born to feel pain? Someone close to me always uses this fraise, “Know Life Know Pain. No life No pain" I used to think that individual likes feeling sorry for ones self. But it’s true in away, you have to know life to know pain. Nothing in life is easy but yet why are we given life. We didn’t ask to come into this world! We were sent here for a reason. We are not told that reason. We learn it through life.

Everything won’t be served up to you, because we take everything for granted, everything that comes easy. We will value it if we go through hardships. Unfortunately that’s how it’s been dealt to us as we are weak.

Having an easy life with your loved ones is what we all hope for but then do we value it? We take each other for granted. We hurt each other. That happens how ever much we try not to. We should know the purpose of our life.... Sometimes we've got to live for someone else who needs us more than we need them. Various people will try to come in between and tell you stuff to keep you away. Show you an easy path. Say leave and live a happy life. And when you’re in doubt and wonder is this, the truth? Is this, the correct thing? Always use the key. The key to the truth is when it can not be debated by anyone. The bad can’t stand it and there, you will get your answer.

What is the key? Simple word like "Do unto others as you would want others to do unto you" and if its something bad it will stop. You will see more clearly and know your right path. We are all here for a purpose. Be good to everyone you know. Don’t feel upset if people put you down. There’s someone always watching out for you and that person will never let you down.

Nothing is put in front of you that you can not handle. BE STRONG. Remember when Life gets you down. Pick up and say to your self. This will only make me stronger. I will not fall.

When in doubt, Always use the key......