Right & Wrong

On my way to work today I was just thinking to my self... "May be I should write a book!" Would it be useful? I think it would.. You see most books we read are all made up.. We love to live in a fairy tale land.. People say "It’s not right, do this that way or this way" Who started it? Who has the right to say this is right or this is wrong... Example: One should not live together with their lover until they are married? Some say its against religion.. Some says society will talk... Why should we live our lives for others? Will society help you when your down or will they wait for an opportunity to gossip? I cant say the same about religion though cos yes I do believe in God but God made Man and woman for each other as it says in the bible but it doesn’t say about marriage.

Certain things in the bible are added on as we all know it, this is the work of man who are influenced by wrong doing. Who gets us to do wrong? Some say the dark one, some say the devil etc.. Any religion says to do good. To live with love... don’t hate.. Forgive... but people who talk so much about God and go to church 4 times a week come back home and gossip about this one and the other. Has hatred in their hearts and cant seam to forgive... But they are the very ones who say do this, this way, divorce is against religion... You promised in church etc... Were there Church's those days? Did one have to go to church to make a promise or even pray for that matter? Is God only there in Church?

One would promise to love and be there for each other... But what happens when the love dies? I know you shouldn’t love or give expecting anything in return, but we all love someone or something cos it makes us feel good... so in reality we are getting something in return.

Why do we hear about people divorcing in Sri Lanka so often? Couples who have dated for 7-8 years stay married only for about a year and end up hating each other! Why is that? When you date you always want to be with each other, you don’t really have to worry about bills or responsibility. It’s just a trip... you plan and have fun... Once you get married then you begin to play house and yes the 1st year of marriage will be wonderful. But what happens when reality kicks in and you realize this is going to be your routine for the rest of your life? The romance has died down... What makes you want to stay in that marriage? It’s a lot of understanding combined with real love... Take siblings... you may be tied up in your own work and life that you hardly talk to each other but you know when you have a crisis they are always there for you with no limitations. Married life becomes that.. Even though Romance dies.. Your love and understanding should grow if its real love... if you think you’re in love just because of the romance, then you are in for a bit of a rocky road...

Couples don’t know each other properly until they actually live with each other. How one uses the toilet or little things like closing the toothpaste cap are things you will have to get used to once you start living with a person... and sometimes couples cant handle that. It’s a lot of give and take. Some feel as if it’s a lot of giving than taking and that's when they feel unhappy and irritated and wonder why do I need this? If that’s the thought, you have to work hard at trying to understand why you feel that way and finally you realize that you ended up getting married because someone forced you or you were just so taken up by the whole wedding thing that you forgot why you were getting married... or didn’t know why...

If you live together and know how each other behaves and figure out if it irritates you, you have your answer there.. but if you live together and can overseas ones messiness or extreme neatness and say " oh I love him or her even more for that" or understand and except that of the other person, then I suppose you know if you can live with this person for the rest of your life.
Cos after all the whole song and dance of the wedding is over that’s what it boils down to. Can you see yourself waking up with this person every single day and know that it won’t bug you? If you love someone you would accept them for who they are... Not hope or try to change them. After all you fell in love with them for them not who you’re going to change them into!

So I think people shouldn’t give a damn about what others say or think as long as you are doing the right thing. Love unconditionally, be sincere and except people for who they are... Despise wrong doing... don’t judge people. They know the reason they do things not you or me. Marriage is just a piece of paper.. The commitment you make to one another is what is real!